I decided that I was going to contribute to the Love For 30 Project today, but I also wanted to mix it up a bit.
If you are a regular reader, you know that every week on Monday I have a guest blogger write about her perspective of being in her 30s, or what she is looking forward to her 30s, or what she learned when she was in her 30s.
Over the weekend, my best friend and I were talking about marriage and relationships. We know someone who is having a difficult time in her marriage, but we think it is because she married her “drama” boyfriend. We were saying how we were so lucky to have dodged a bullet and not married the “drama” boyfriend from our early 20s. Or “drama” boyfriends’, because it always seems to be more than one while dating.
As we all know from being in our 30s, we are not the same person that we were when we were 21, 22 or even 25. We put up with a lot more when we were younger, and in a way, thrived on all the drama and crap that the unhealthy relationship brought.
So, that is what brings me to my next project. We have all had that dramatic relationship and the boyfriend who was just not good for us. Some of us married him, and some of us didn’t, but we all went through it.
There are so many stories that I can reflect on and some that I can’t because I just don’t remember them. But that is what best friends are for right? As my bf and I were chatting about crappy boyfriend behavior, she reminded me of a story that is so jacked and so ridiculous I can understand why I did not remember it until she retold the story to me. I can only assume that I blocked it from memory, but once she reminded me, I was laughing so hard that I couldn’t speak because I had forgotten it, and it seemed so outlandish, it was almost like it was made up. But it wasn’t. It was real, and I remember the shock that I felt when it happened and when I relayed the story back to her. This is the story she reminded me.
I was 21-years old and I had been dating this guy for about 6 months. I’ll call him MM. I gave him my virginity so that tells you the seriousness of how I felt about this guy. I really liked him, or at this point, I loved him. It was a very dramatic relationship, but I was so young, I didn’t know it could be any different, so I stayed with him for about two years.
One day he told me that he had a special surprise for me, and he couldn’t wait to give it to me, and he had been working on it all week. I had no idea what it could be. So, I went over to his house, (by his house, I mean his parent’s house because he was still living with them.) MM was all dressed up in a button down shirt, tie and slacks. I had no idea what to expect, but being 21, my mind went wild with possibilities. Could this be it? Could this be a proposal for marriage? I was so excited and nervous at the same time.
MM told me to sit down and suddenly got on one knee. I was so excited, but I also thought it could not be, it was still early in our relationship. Maybe it was a promise ring. I could deal with that. From his pants pocket, MM pulled out a maroon ring box with a button snap and told me to open it. I asked MM what was going on, and he looked at me lovingly and told me to open it.
I opened the box and I could not believe what was inside. Pubes. Did you get that? Pieces of his pubic hair. I just sat there stunned. STUNNED! How could I not be stunned? Who does that? Who puts on a whole production to make a girl feel like something special is going to happen and I open a ring box to find pubic hair inside! I don’t think I can use enough exclamation points to get across the shock I was feeling.
I asked him what the hell I was looking at and he proudly said to me that he shaved his balls for the first time in his life, and by doing so, it was a gift to me.
So yeah, that was a story that I obviously chose to forget, but can laugh at now because it sounds just so ridiculous.
Submit Your Bad Boyfriend Behavior Story
This is what I want to do now. I know that all of us have a story like that, and I want all of you to share. I want to give away a prize to the best, crazy significant other story FROM YOUR 20s! Don’t worry single girls in your 30s, I know that dating in your 30s, is a whole other ball game and I am going to dedicate another prize to that down the road.
So ladies, leave a comment or email me ([email protected]) if you prefer to stay anonymous and tell us your crazy story of dating in your 20s. I will then compile all the comments and put them in another post so that they can get voted on and I will give a prize to the commenter with the most votes.
I am giving away $75.00 gift card to Target!!!
- Please use honesty and no made up stories. Besides, sometimes you can’t make up this crap.
- Keep your story to under 2 paragraphs or 100 words. ( I will edit if necessary.)
- Not too graphic please. There is such thing as TMI.
***** This is not an April fools joke, I assure you! This really happened in my life. My Love for 30 Project is always on Monday and it just happened to fall on 4/1. ******
Nichole @justsomejane.com says
Oh My…. wow.
That really happened!? Who the heck does that!? Please tell me that you are fooling us!
Ok, now my mind is working… I am sure I have a horror story or ten I could share ;)
btw…. LOVE this project
My Thirty Spot says
Unfortunately for me, this story is 100% true! I thought of the fact that today is April fools and people might not believe me, but it is Monday and I wanted to share it for the Love for 30 Project and get other ladies to admit their crazy bad boyfriend story.
Now I just need ladies to submit!
I cannot stop laughing – “his gift to you” – yikes! Now what story should I share?! I’ve plenty.
My Thirty Spot says
I know! Who does he think he is? “A gift to me.” The worst part is that he really thought it was so funny and not a big deal.
I would love if you contributed.
Mama Lion says
I remember when this happened to you and it was insane then and many years later it is still insane but so hilarious! Thanks a lot MM for that treasure!
Joy U says
I haven’t been able to stop thinking about this story — so gross!
Years ago, when my three best friends from graduate school abruptly broke up with me by email with absolutely no explanation (I’m still at a loss about what happened), I was completely distraught. It was a total punch in the gut and I had so many questions. It was worse than any actual break up I’d ever gone through — these were girls I’d spent every weekend with, traveled to Europe with, taken care of when they were sick.
About a week after it happened, I was talking to my then boyfriend about whether I should try calling them to ask what had happened. He looked at me and said, “Are you still thinking about that? You need to get over it already.”
It was actually a blessing — a wake up call. I’d known for a long time that he didn’t really have emotions or empathy, and that moment snapped me into clarity about the fact that he never would.
This absolutely doesn’t even compare to a hairy proposal, but it definitely qualifies as bad behavior. :)
Maddie Rae says
I was engaged professional baseball player and I was working for another team at the time. I got back from a road trip and went straight to his apartment. There was a girl there and I had a moment of panic before calming myself down(guys are constantly up and down levels and I assumed it was a girlfriend of someone I hadn’t met yet) She then calls me by name and says verbatim “Oh, hi! Your brother didn’t tell me you were coming to town”
That’s right…sister. What. The. What. Apparently that was how he explained away the pictures of us. Cause you know, 22 year old guys keep pictures of them and their “sister” all around?!
Don’t worry,I enacted the best way to get back to him ever. One of those moments in life where the ideas and words just flowed perfectly. But that is another story.
My Thirty Spot says
Joy and Maddie Rae,
Thanks so much for contributing! I super appreciate that you submitted a story! I love them both!
Katie Smith says
I love My Thirty Spot and I love this project! I can definitely relate, with a few ‘drama’ boyfriends I had in my 20s. The worst story I have is from J.
J and I had a very dramatic, on and off relationship for a few years. We were actually in a pretty good place around the time of my reunion, so I had invited him to come with me. This would be ghe first time, after a year of seeing each other, that he would meet my family and my bestie from high school. He actually said he was excited to meet them and see where I grew up.
We were suppose to leave for the reunion in the afternoon after a full work day. A few hours into the work day, I received an email from him. It was a forward from his brother explaining that some lady that was a family friend of their’s had passed away and needed J to be a pallbearer. Guess when the funeral was scheduled? Yep, same time and different state from my reunion.
Something seemed fishy with this, so I looked up the lady’s obituary. She had passed away several weeks before and J had not been a pallbearer in her funeral.
He lied about a funeral to get out of going to my reunion and meeting my family. That was the end of J. Bad boyfriend!
I was in my early 20’s and Ryan and I had only been dating for a couple of months. One evening we decided to stay in and watch a movie. When he arrived at my house he was holding a rose and a card for me. It as so sweet!! While watching the movie we laid on the couch and did nothing more than maybe kiss a little. At this point in my life I had only had sex with one guy and he totally ripped my heart out!!! So, I was not in a hurry to EVER have sex again. The movie ended and Ryan asked if he could use the phone. He took the phone and went into the other room and shut the door. I thought this was very odd. Why would he need to have a private conversation? So, I listened through the door. I was so astonished by what I heard!!!! Ryan said “No, nothing!!! I even gave her the rose and the card!!! We were kissing and that’s about it!!! What do you think I should do to get her to want to have sex?” I was soooo mad!! I snatched up the rose and the card and busted through the door!! His eyes were popping out of his head! I threw the rose and the card at him and told him to get the hell out!!!