Then there’s 39-year-old mom-of-two Ali, who feels the 30s is about a quest for balance (i.e. not going bonkers):
The first word that comes to mind for me is torn. Every 30-something year-old woman I know (mostly married with kids) have had to live under the annoying ‘having it all’ shingle and are made to feel inadequate, whether working at home, part-time, not at all, or being the primary breadwinner. There is so much information, so many opinions out there floating on the Internet; it’s hard to find even a little peace within.
I do wonder if the 30-something female is deliberately standing behind the camera. This is the age bracket that some of us make life-changing decisions (i.e. children), and though I am loath to leave women barefoot, pregnant and at the stove, I do think that we take a step back to keep things in perspective. There’s also the fact that most of us did not spend our early teens posting every sloppy detail of our lives to the world (i.e. Facebook, Twitter). It’s no wonder we’re cool with chilling behind the lights and calling the shots.
Merissa, 36, sees this decade as a rediscovery of yourself — but in a blowtorch-to-your-ass kinda way:
One phrase to sum up my 30s so far? In the hot seat. You take an audit of your career, your home, your bank account. You start to take a hard look at the person in bed beside you. You start to take a hard look at your face, the little lines that won’t go away… In your 30s, you find your ‘fight’: What are you willing to fight for and why? Maybe you speak up more. Maybe you make some changes. Maybe things start to happen that change you: children, mortgages, divorce, a parent’s illness. It’s the decade of reckoning, bookended by the ‘explore it all’ 20s and the ‘fuck it all, what’s done is done’ 40s. It’s the hot seat. The time of awakening.
What is your perspective?
Be sure to read the entire Hufffington Post article titled: The 30-Something Female Experience: What Is It Really? By: Eudie Pak
I just featured a few of the perspectives and you will want to read what Eudie says about her 30s.