As time passes and we start to reach our prime years, it can sometimes be that daily reflection becomes a normal part of our experience. This is not a bad thing, as being more a ware of how you act in relation to yourself and others can be a net positive for everyone involved. But there’s also a risk here. We can sometimes become a little neurotic, worrying about all of the opportunities we may have missed or considering what things may have been like if they had turned out differently.
This can leave us to wish for more in our lives, or it may motivate us to choose another, new life path. It can also encourage us to find ourselves with diligent effort. For instance, we may wish to take a long cruise around the world or hike in European countries in order to create our own rite of passage into mature adulthood.
But sometimes, it can be that we go about things the wrong way. First we need to answer the questions, should we really find who we are, or create who we are? And how does that translate to becoming a ‘new you’ if you feel that is necessary? In the following words, we hope to explore that right alongside you.
Establishing who you are first means understanding the primary drivers that comprise your personality. It can be hard to focus on this aim when you’re artificially trying to decide these factors for yourself, because life is often a lived experience, and we rarely catalogue events as if we’re to write about them in an essay, that is unless we have been keeping up with the humble art of journaling.
Instead, it can be worthwhile to watch yourself for a couple of weeks. What motivations do you hold? What do you seek to avoid? What kind of friends have you made, and what are your interactions like? When no one else is around, and you have free time, what’s the first thing you consider doing? When we have more of an idea of who we are we can move forward to a better result without having to worry, as we will have already started to understand our actions at this moment in time. Of course, it’s important not to overly label yourself, as you may be putting too strict a definition on what you are. However, this groundwork can then help you start:
When you focus on yourself, you figure out what’s important to you, and what isn’t. This can allow you to focus on that which you feel is most important. For instance, perhaps you’ve been beating yourself up about dental work that you should have been receiving for some time, only you haven’t made the time due to caring for everyone else’s needs. It could be that through using Instasmile services and products you are able to immediately address or resolve those concerns going forward, giving you a more natural reason to smile in your daily life.
Refining you also means letting go of the things you truly dislike. Have you been trying to get in shape running on a treadmill, only to realize that you hate running and would much prefer to come back to the swimming practice that you so enjoyed as a child? Giving that a renewed try could be a much better use of your time.
Letting Go Of You
It’s also important to learn how to let go of parts of yourself you have been carrying for some time, as if they’re not helping you, they can become a burden. For instance, forgiveness is often a fantastic means of restoring your mind, body and soul back to a peaceful state. It may be that we’ve been wrong in the past, and are still holding on to the residual effects that this caused.
However, forgiveness is not something we do for the person who wrong us, but something we do for ourselves. It allows us to seek closure on the matter. While this is a highly specific example that may hold no relevance to you, sometimes it can be worth taking a day to address your emotional hangups and to work through just what they are. Sure, this may be the journey of a lifetime and not something you can click your fingers and achieve, but taking the time to even begin this process can help you fully shape into the person you are, not the person that circumstances outside your control have led you to become. For many, this is the start of a new, more powerful version of themselves, a pure balance between both finding themselves and directily, intentionally creating who they may be.
It’s a great idea to celebrate you from time to time. Why is that? Because you are one of a kind, and there’s no one quite like you. Even if you have an identical twin with an identical wardrobe whom you share your live with, it’s important to note that you’ll still have personality differences, and that adds to your uniqueness.
If we cannot celebrate ourselves, then we can often think of ourselves in overtly serious terms. Instead of taking care of our body and mind because it feels good to do and helps us live life with pleasure, we may do so with a grim duty in our mind, slowly marching from one responsibility to the next. Instead of dating because it’s fun and we hope to see what’s out there, we may start to do so out of desperation for fear that in our middle age, no one is going to love us. You can subvert all of these serious ideas and impressions by simply being a little more open and considerate of yourself. If you can do that, the clouds will part, and you’ll be able to create who you are in a lighter context.
With this humble advice, we hope you can strike the perfect balance between finding and creating your new you. You deserve it.