It is amazing what can change over one year. Nichole joined the Love for 30 Project last year, and looking back at the last year has brought many changes that she never saw coming, and a happy outlook at what to come.
If you haven’t already, you need to be sure to check out her blog. Nichole is very thoughtful in her words and very interesting in her writing. Join her in the journey of her new path.
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Still Finding My True Me
It is incredible how much change a person can undergo in just one short year. Actually… less than a year is all it took for my life to flipped upside down and shaken sideways.
Just last February I wrote a guest post for the Love for 30Project here at My Thirty Spot. It is surreal to look back on those words today because I have changed so much in so little time.
In my original post I talked so much about finding my true self. I was proud of what I had accomplished and I paid a great deal of respect and admiration to my then husband. I say “then” husband because exactly 1 month to the day of that post be published, he asked me for a divorce.
A 12 year relationship, which became much of who I was, was coming to an abrupt end. I was unprepared. My life, as I knew it, was changing and there was nothing I could do to stop it.
Being 34 going on 35 and alone for the first time in my life was something that I was going to have to get used to and quick. I no longer had help around the house or with finances. I no longer had someone to rely on when I heard strange noises outside or needed help carrying items that were heavy. I was alone and it was scary.
What was I going to do?
I sulked for about a day before I decided to look at life rationally. This was MY time. This was MY chance to find out what more I could get from life. Who says you can’t start over in your 30’s? What did I want? Where did I want to go? Who do I want to become?
Honestly, I think that my way of thinking scared my father at first. He expected me to be a broken mess but the only times I really struggled emotionally was when I was trying to refinance the house in my name! Let me be straight with you… When it comes to finances, my OCD comes into play. This was nothing new.
The thing that I have learned is this… we never stop learning or changing. 20s, 30s, 40s… beyond… We never stop finding our true self. We will continue to evolve and grow. Our thirties are full of all kinds of change. Some of the change is great. Some of the change is scary.
As I look back over this last year and I see where my life has taken me, I realize that there is so much that I want – things I would have never been able to have in that “old life”. I am grateful for this new start.
Today I know that I am a much stronger person than I ever gave myself credit for. I love living on my own. I enjoy the quiet and I take pride in doing things that I always relied on someone else doing. Also, I love knowing that one day I can have my own family – something my ex never wanted but I did.
My life is great. I now work out of my home. I am still in college and I even take Ukulele lessons! I found a passion for the Catholic church and have fallen in love with the man who had been my best friend for nearly ten years.
34-35… A crazy and unpredictable year, yes. But also so incredible. Just imagine was 36 could bring!
Nichole is the owner of the small blogsite JustSomeJane.com where she writes about every day life of a Jane. She spends most of her time balancing between family, friends, career, college and seeking out the occasional adventure.